The Power of Confidence in Divorce

Having confidence during the divorce process is a powerful ingredient for success. When you are prepared for success, it shows. It shows in your body language. It shows in your ability to adapt quickly and for the good. It shows in the teamwork you have developed with your attorney and other professionals. But most of all, it shows that you are in charge of your destiny and are confident you will succeed.

"One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation," to quote Arthur Ashe. Preparation is hard work, but it is worth it. Closing this chapter of your life successfully sets the stage for the rest of your life.

What can give you more confidence and a competitive edge?

Action

It is confidence that comes from the fact that you have made the decision to divorce and have acted. This may have been a long time in coming, but the decision is made and there is a certain amount of relief in acting.

Research and retaining professional representation

It is confidence that you have retained a competent attorney who you can work with as a team. The attorney retained knows the importance of your children and acts accordingly. You have chosen a law firm that has a system to keep you informed of your progress on an ongoing basis so you are in charge. You have looked at your attorney's track record and history of success in court. Even though you probably will not go to court, this track record is an indicator of your attorney's success in negotiation.

Planning and preparation

It is confidence that you have developed a solid and complete plan and are prepared for success. You have reviewed with your attorney the strategy and steps planned to implement the divorce effectively and in a timely manner.

Documentation and due diligence

It is confidence that you have gained from reviewing family finances and have completed a plan for your future financial health. You have located, reviewed, and are familiar with your family's finances: income, marital assets and liabilities, wills, trusts, and all other financial instruments. You have performed due diligence of marital assets and are aware of current and future value.

Developed a budget for during and after divorce

You have planned for your financial future with some level of similar lifestyle.

Developed a parenting plan

It is confidence that you have worked through the parenting plan so your children's future will be as stable as possible.

Successful conclusion

Your confidence has been an important ingredient in generating a successful settlement. Your attorney represented you, but you were in charge. This conclusion sets the stage for a new life that is centered on your values and what is important to you.

Quote Source: "One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation." Arthur Ashe quoted in Brainyquote.com