Three Things to Keep in Mind if Change Occurs
Processes to Consider
· Negotiating a reasonable and equitable settlement via a family law attorney – The vast majority of clients would like to avoid an emotionally and financially expensive trial. This is an understandable goal. It is not an enjoyable experience to have to testify in court or see family members and loved ones testify. Most parties would also prefer not to spend hard-earned money on litigation. Try to resolve family matters in a process that is designed to reduce the level of conflict and rebuild trust.
· Litigation is an adversarial process in which both parties play to “win.” An unfortunate byproduct of litigation is that it intensifies the level of conflict and increases distrust. Your attorney should prepare to go to court (it helps to negotiate a settlement), but try to reach an agreement first.
· Mediation involves a “mediator” or neutral third party that tries to help you resolve the issues in your divorce. You and your spouse make the decisions with the aid of a mediator, who assists with your communication with each other to reach an agreement.
· Collaborative divorce is an interdisciplinary team approach. In addition to the parties themselves, the team may consist of an attorney plus other professionals.
· In arbitration, you and your spouse agree that you’ll hire an “arbitrator” to make the same decisions that a judge could make and that you will honor the arbitrator’s decisions as if a judge had made them.
Ultimately, only you and your spouse will make the decisions that will determine what you and your family will look like after the divorce. The family will still exist after the relationship ends, and how you end the relationship counts!
Stange Law Firm, PC is a firm that focuses exclusively on family law in the areas of divorce, child custody, child support, paternity, and other domestic relations issues. As a family law firm, we have an interest in families. We strive to bring peace and stability back to parents who need help.
Source: 3 Things to Think About Before Filing For Divorce, by Mark Baer/ Maria Shriver Blog, February 12, 2014