Alternative Dispute Resolution

Alternative Dispute Resolution

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Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) is a term that describes different types of methods for going through a divorce that don’t require going to trial. Most people would want to option to handle their divorce in a more amicable and private manner without having to take it to court and in front of a judge. These different methods are mediation and collaborative law.

What is Mediation?

In mediation, the parties sit together with a neutral mediator. The mediator then tries to facilitate communication between the parties in hopes that they are able to reach an agreement on specific issues. In many instances, multiple sessions are necessary and can eventually help parties reach an agreement privately outside of court.

If an agreement can be reached, the parties then hire separate attorneys to file settlement paperwork in court and obtain the approval of a judge.  There is also voluntary mediation and court-ordered mediation.  It is important to understand the difference.

If you are interested in mediation, contact us today. Stange Law Firm, PC has multiple mediators who can help you, including: Kirk Stange, Paola Stange, Kelly Davidzuk and others.

What is Collaborative Law?

In collaborative practice, each party hires a trained collaborative lawyer. To be a trained collaborative lawyer, the lawyer first has to attend mediation training. The lawyer then attends additional training about collaborative practice. In total, for a lawyer to complete training to be a collaborative lawyer, it requires 50-60 hours of training. There are only a certain numbers of lawyers in the area trained in collaborative practice. Stange Law Firm, PC has lawyers who are trained in this area.

Collaborative practice should also not be confused with uncontested divorce or simply trying to settle outside of court amicably. Collaborative practice is a distinct process that requires a lawyer to be trained in this area.

After training, the lawyer joins the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. They then become part of a local practice group like the Missouri Collaborative Institute or the South Central Illinois Collaborative Family Law Association. It is important for parties to understand that to complete a collaborative divorce or family law matter, you must hire a lawyer who is trained in collaborative practice.

At Stange Law Firm, PC, Kirk and Paola Stange and Kelly Davidzuk are trained collaborative family lawyers. Kirk and Paola Stange and Kelly Davidzuk are members of the Missouri Collaborative Institute.  If you want to pursue a collaborative divorce or family law matter, contact us today.

You can also visit our webpage on collaborative divorce titled: Collaborative Divorce Representation.

If you hire us for a collaborative divorce or family law matter, your lawyer will sit down with your spouse’s lawyer, or the other party’s lawyer, and talk through matters. Other professionals, such as, divorce coaches, financial neutrals and psychologists are often present in these meetings to better help parties resolve their case outside of court. Collaborative practice can be helpful where both parties want to settle, but are initially not in agreement on all the terms. If an agreement is reached, the trained collaborative lawyers file the paperwork in court and get it approved by the judge.

If issues cannot be resolved through collaboration, and the case must be taken to court, the collaborative attorneys must withdraw from the case and new attorneys must be hired before the matter can be litigated.

What Are The Benefits Of ADR?

ADR is increasingly popular for several reasons, including the following:

  • It is generally less costly than going to court
  • In most circumstances, it is a more expeditious way of resolving issues during the divorce
  • It is usually more private than handling the case in court

However, Alternative Dispute Resolutions, such as mediation and collaborative law, will only work if parties are willing to communicate and resolve their issues amicably.

For more information about Alternative Dispute Resolutions, please see our other pages:

Mediation & Collaborative Divorce
Find about mediation and collaborative divorce.
Questions About Collaborative Practice
If you have questions about collaborative practice, we can help answer them here.
Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce
Find out about the benefits of collaborative divorce.
What is a Divorce Coach?
Find out how a divorce coach can help in collaborative practice.
Questions About Mediation
You can find out here how mediation works in divorce and family law matters.
Mediation as an Amicable Process of Divorce
Find out how mediation can help lead to an amicable result in divorce and family law matters.
Preparing for ADR in Divorce
Find out how to prepare for alternative dispute resolution in divorce.
Voluntary Mediation vs. Court Ordered Mediation
Find out the difference between voluntary and court ordered mediation in divorce and family law matters.
Divorce Mediation
Find out about the potential benefits of divorce mediation.

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At Stange Law Firm, PC, we have multiple attorneys who are ready and willing to help you through you divorce process if you choose to handle it in a more amicable way through mediation or collaborative law. We offer a confidential consultation for those wishing to proceed with an Alternative Dispute Resolution method. You can contact us online or by calling one of our convenient locations at  855-805-0595.


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